CHAPTER 6 – The Temple of healing

  • Aging, sickness, and death are suffering. To lose what you love is suffering. The Buddha
  • To heal we cannot reject our illness and grief or use anger and a aversion to try to get rid of them. Instead we have to bring a tender, healing energy to all that is sick or torn, what is broken or lost. In the Buddhist prayer of healing, similar to the spirit of Jesus, we recite: “May I be the healing medicine for all who are sick. May I bring healing to myself and others,”
  • Sometimes this is all that healing asks that would become present.
  • At first, he started his meditations with all of the prayers in mantras and visualizations he had learned. Finally, one morning, he just sat still. As soon as he did, waves of grief and guilt and loss toward and out. And the simple and necessary task for healing became evident: to begin a kind attention to all of the grief and suffering from which he could no longer run.
  • Our healing comes from our own kind attention and through the kind in brace of another.
  • He looked at this young woman and said, “Life is precious. You must do everything you can to heal yourself. Here are some healing prayers, here is healing holy water, and here are some healing practices. And, only at the end, if it becomes absolutely clear that you cannot heal yourself, should you let go into the practices for death.” This woman dedicated herself to these practices and live for years longer than anyone expected. As long as you can find a passion for the preciousness of life, and bring this care to the healing of your heart and body.


CHAPTER 7 –   The Zen of an aching heart

  • Your days past like rainbows, like a flash of lightning, like a star at dawn. Your life is short. How can you quarrel? The Buddha
  • When your heart breaks-in love, in friendship, in partnership – it is always a very difficult experience. It hurts. When we’re feeling abandoned and rejected, we don’t want to eat, we can’t sleep, we have difficulty breathing, our bodies feel as if we’ve been injured and our hearts ache.
  • Like a sand castle, all is temporary. Build it, tend it, and enjoy it. And when the time comes, let it go.

Sometimes we grow most through suffering, loss, and betrayal. The unexpected breakups that befell us deepen our capacity to lead an authentic and free life. Often by working our way through our difficulties, our ability to love and feel compassion deepens, along with the wisdom that will help us through similar problems in the future. And learning how to survive our own difficulties is one the few things that will help us to know the right things to say and do when others whom we love stuffer as well.